Thank you all so much for your words of encouragement, prayers and tears you shared with me while reading my blog. I was very anxious when I woke up this morning about what I have shared but I truly feel like it was worth it.
Now that we got that out of the way, after talking to a few friends who have gone through infertility or who are going through it, I thought I would write things NOT to say to someone struggling with trying to get pregnant.
- Relax. It will happen…
- Go on vacation! (tried that- doesn’t work!)
- If you adopt, you will get pregnant.
- Stop thinking about it and it will just happen.
- Just get drunk!
One that really bothers me, but may not bother too many other people- “When it’s meant to be, it will be.” I am almost 30, married for 3 years, financially stable, pretty darn healthy now with my Crohn’s…why isn’t it meant to be yet?
Most of my friends and family have been very good about asking me questions, telling me all about their pregnancies and understanding if I just cannot go to a shower. I don’t want them to feel like they are walking on eggshells with me and to be nervous what they are going to say- and I let them know that.
One thing that really worries me about not having a baby when all my friends are- I will be left out. There will be play dates, talks about breast feeding/sleeping schedules/diapers, mommy and me groups, walks on the boardwalk with their strollers. I try not to think like that and compare myself to others, but I kind of see it happening already…pictures online with 3 or 4 babies together or friends writing to each other on face book at 3am because they were all up doing a feeding. This may sound stupid and childish, but it does bother me. Sigh…
That’s enough for today, my eyes are burning from reading so much! Until next time my friends.